Monthly Archives: August 2015

Accident 501, Part B; August 29, 2015

My work life had been no exception.

Two years ago, an employee that got done absolutely everything in a day for 30 consecutive days, was the employee of the month.  But customers didn’t keep coming back because we got everything done in their prospective orders.  In fact, many left for less capable companies.


Because tasks are nothing but logical processes and take nothing into consideration for the people around them; they are empty vouchers of ability that say nothing to the character of a person. 

I even employed some Christian men and women (smugly, I might add, “oh look at me, I employ people in the Church, how wonderful of me”), who were all very good at tasks and wound up being not great with people.  Were they bad people?  Maybe not.  Did they do bad things? Absolutely, in some cases.

In fact, my former CFO, a proposed Christian man who did mission trips, participated in the church, spoke of his ever-holy tasks of being a good man; but he was not a great man or even a decent man when it came down to it.  He participated in the fraudulent handling of affairs within the company because likely he never handled the people or took time to be in relationship with the people around him, or probably even Dear God. He handled the tasks, and took no notice of the relationship and context his actions were participating in.

Likewise, if I hadn’t spent all my time doing the tasks of the company, and spent time with the people of the company, I would have discovered it much sooner; however, I also was lost in being a not-bad person and focused only on the tasks at hand, not on the people around me.  Tasks have a way of giving a false sense of self to those around you, so much so, that you start to believe your own lies of how good you are because everything around you is functioning, clean and in its place.

Realizing this and having the paradigm shift to engage in relationship, not task, lost me everything; once you force the harder task of participation, suddenly there are no false ways to judge a character around the office, no awards, no records, no false achievements; it all become about how the customer and peers are satisfied with working with you and only the strongest of character remain behind.

Tasks are for the weak.  Relationship is for the strong.

Through the transition, only one person remained in the company aside from myself, and there were too many tasks to not focus in on relationship in order to get the company back up and running again, stronger than ever.

A year later, my employees aren’t graded exclusively in what they can accomplish (and yes, it turns out the more they are treated like people themselves, the more they treat other people like people and the circle turns very profitable), but on the difference they can make in people’s lives that we work with.  In turn, those people make differences in our lives and what a better way to spend a day that the tasks are no longer tasks, but building blocks of relationship between employee, employer and customer.


Accident 501, Part A; August 29, 2015


I accidentally had to start this post over, because I forgot that it’s not about the task of writing it…

it’s the people that count.  In my reflections on this point, I had three pages that didn’t illustrate my point, not even close.  I got so caught up in the task of what I was writing, that I forgot the very human experience happening inside of me.

I remembered that Jesus illustrated this when he goes to Mary and Martha’s house.  Martha became engaged in the tasks of cleaning and preparation of her home and Mary sat at Jesus’ feet…Jesus scolds Martha for chastising Mary by stating it is the better choice to sit and participate with Him.  The better route, was not in the preparation, but in the moment of participation.

I had never understood that point until just now.

Being raised in the Dutch Reform Church, I can tell you my Oma would have ripped my ear off of my head if we were going to have Jesus over and I hadn’t cleaned the toilets.  So much of my life has been focused on having the tasks of preparation complete, so much so, that I completely missed the purpose and reason for the task in the first place.

Just like this post, I almost was so caught up in writing it, that I forgot why I was writing it.

Accident 500; August 27, 2015


I am accidently learning that emotions need calibration.

As I’m growing in faith, love and patience … a dear friend had the most unfortunate incident of both saying and looking at me at wrong time this week.  Dare I say, a nuclear attack or Jesus returning would have been less surprising for both of us.

The incident occurred over nose hair clippers and my emotional assurance that not only were the nail clippers a sign of a long-term undercurrent of anger on his behalf towards me, but also his absolute disdain for everything that I look like, stand for and my existence in general.  That being said, my reaction seemed only logical to verbally obliterate him from his birth to his future, imminent death.

Looking back, it’s embarrassing how I behaved and what I said.  It took two days in bed, extra sleep, movies, some wine and a good hug to realize that emotions are a powerful tool.  And with all power tools, sometimes they need to be calibrated.

The last few years have offered up quite a dose of stress, pain and fear and an even greater dose of love, forgiveness and blessings.  But that doesn’t mean that I haven’t been stretched as a person in every way possible.  I need to remember as I am going forward that faith is an everyday act and on days where I fail, it’s not a failure on me as a person, but a failure to re-calibrate in this new life.

So, with that.  I’m going to grab a glass of my favorite wine, ask some friends to pray (since I am so worn I can’t) and turn my computer off.

I’m going to take a few days to re-calibrate.